Self-Love is the Greatest Love

February 02, 2020

Self-Love is the Greatest Love

It's February, that time of year when we generally have love on the brain. Whether you are single AF or in a relationship, let's repeat this mantra: your relationship status does not define you. Your self-worth is not based upon anyone else’s ability to love you. The best love truly comes from within; yes, the earth-shattering love of your life is the love that you have for yourself. Sometimes believing this is easier said than done, so what can you do to ensure you’re cultivating self-love? Here are a few thoughts:

Accept Yourself.  All of the parts of you that make you uniquely you. The good, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful. You are an individual, celebrate and honor this. Yes, as humans we share commonalities and these weave together our fabric of mutual experience, but everyone walks a different path and that is a blessing. Write down a list of your best qualities, talents, strengths and reflect on your magic. No one can bring to the world what you can. Remember that no one is perfect and comparison will only hold you back from bliss.

Treat Yourself Like Your Own Best Friend.  If you are having a difficult time in your life, being hard on yourself or down on your luck, think of what you would say to your best friend if they were the one suffering in the experience and give that advice to yourself. Give yourself a hug, use a kind tone in your inner dialogue, be compassionate, understanding, supportive and forgiving. Listen to what you need to feel better and offer it to yourself.

Stand Up for Yourself.  Create strong boundaries for what is and isn’t right for you in your life and accept nothing less from anyone or any circumstance. Be willing to walk away from people, jobs or situations that do not align with the values and standards you set. Empower yourself and you will gain inner confidence and self-respect. Speak your truth, never settle and end toxic relationships. When you clear out what doesn't serve you, you create space for new beginnings. Saying "NO" doesn't make you a bad person, it makes you a better person.

Lead With Love.  Ask yourself, “What would love do?” Framing your actions from a place of inner sanctuary and pure love will guide you in the highest direction. Love is all around. It is our human birthright and it is an unlimited source of energy that unites humanity. Perhaps close your eyes for a minute, reflect on a recent experience of love with your special someone, your family, a friend or even a pet. Let that cozy feeling soak in and when faced with uncertainty, call in this feeling and move forward with love as your guide.

Take Good Care of Yourself.  Start your day with positive affirmations, things about you that make you smile. Eat well, sleep well, exercise well and calm your mind. Surround yourself with people who encourage you and make you happy. Celebrate your wins. Do nice things for yourself like making time for you and the things you love. Self-care means something different to everyone, so the first thing that comes to mind is likely what you need right now. Give yourself permission. 

Remember, the longest relationship you will ever have in your life is with yourself. The journey to self-love doesn’t happen overnight. Take steps now to surround yourself with the TLC you deserve.


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